Never has there been a more fascinating time to be a woman. We are asking for and demanding equal pay. Guess what? We deserve it! Women can truly have it all now. We have amazing careers, beautiful wardrobes, and happy children all while wearing the fiercest pumps imaginable. So why are so many single and successful women falling victim to the “hook-up culture”, settling for less, and ending up on the “booty call” roster? You want a relationship. I get it! Don’t answer it!

Seriously, if you respond to the text message what do you plan on achieving besides a fake orgasm? Sure he’ll come over hopefully give you the best 19 minutes of his life, but then what? You’ll be late for work, may have to call in sick, or suffer from being so tired nothing will get done. You two aren’t exactly the brunch type because you really haven’t seen too much of each other during the daylight dating hours. When actively dating you’ll need to set and keep boundaries.

You owe it to yourself to value yourself. Remember having a summer job as a teen and working those ridiculous hours when all you wanted to do was go to the beach like the rest of your friends? You knew that if you did you wouldn’t be able to buy the car you wanted. Not the beat up clunker that your parents thought you should have. You worked hard and sacrificed to earn it! Remember that feeling? Well it’s the same thing when it comes to being single and dating. Don’t forget!

The anticipation and waiting will lead to more desire. Delayed gratification is crucial in the dating and mating game. It sounds like such a cliché, but it’s true. Good things come to those who wait. You hate to admit it to your friends, but you’ve had several one night stands. You’ve been the booty call girl countless times, so why not try something different. It’s true madness to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different outcome. Stop! Just stop!